However, if you want to live a happy married life, then you have to work on keeping the romance alive and on continuing to grow both with your partner and as an individual. Though it’s not always easy, you can make your marriage thrive if you and your partner are willing to put in the effort.
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Work to keep your relationship in the present.
If you care about your spouse and want to have a healthy and productive relationship, then you should avoid getting hung up on past mistakes you both made or keep reminding your spouse of their failures; instead, work on reinforcing positive behavior, enjoying your present time together, and thinking of all you have to look forward to. If you really care about your spouse, then you will be considerate of their feelings and won’t bring up the past just to get a reaction.
Take the time to listen.
Listening is one of the best ways to be considerate toward your spouse. Don’t just zone out when your spouse is talking about their day or wait for them to finish talking so you can say what you want to say; make an effort to really hear them out and to care about what you are being told. When you’re having a real conversation, put away your phone, make eye contact, and be considerate enough to really listen.
Give priority to your spouse.
Though you don’t need to make your life revolve completely around your spouse, you have to remember that when you and your spouse decided to get married, you wanted to be a priority in each other’s lives. You should make sure to honor that decision and to make all of your big decisions with your spouse in mind, making sure that you try to do what’s best for you as well as for the person you are married to.
Maintain strong communication.
If you want your marriage to be a happy one, then communication is key. You and your partner should be able to talk graciously to each other about your thoughts especially about things for the two of you to agree upon or do together. Doing this daily helps foster communication and maintain trust between partners to keep your marriage healthy and strong.
NOTE: Don’t break marital confidences or use them as a weapon during an argument.
If your partner trusted you with something very private and important, then you shouldn’t undermine that trust by reporting it to someone else just because you didn’t really think about it. If it was something painful and personal, then don’t use it as ammunition during an argument, or your partner will be betrayed. Be considerate of the fact that your partner trusted you with important information and make sure to honor that trust.
Be attuned to your partner’s moods.
If you sense that something is wrong with your partner, take time to embrace him and ask what's the matter maybe that's the time he or she needs your attention the most. Don't ignore that opportunity. If your partner isn’t ready to talk, then you don’t have to push it and make things worse, but you should show that you’ll be there when they are is ready and willing to open up.
Don’t forget to say "I love you".
Don’t ever think that you don’t have to say “I love you” because your partner should already know how you feel.
Make an effort to tell your partner how much you love him or her at least once or twice a day and make sure you slow down, look your partner in the eyes, and say it like you really mean it. Don’t just say “Love ya!” as you leave the house or say “love you” in a text message take the time to let your partner know how much they really means to you, in person.
Taking the time to kiss your partner for just six seconds in the morning can spark the passion in your relationship. Don’t just give a perfunctory “Bye, honey” kiss on the cheek; make sure you mean it, even if you’re in a rush.
Don’t underestimate the power of touch.
Make sure to hug, touch, reassure, kiss, hold, or just be near your partner as much as you can. That physical connection can help keep your relationship strong and can make you feel close to each other, even if you’re not always on the same page.
NOTE: If you’ve been too busy to do some of the usual things you do for your partner, try to make up for it when you have a bit more time. Let your partner know that you’re aware that you haven’t been as attentive as usual and that you want to make up for it.
Surprise each other with little gifts or tokens of appreciation.
This will make the moment even more special. Gifts need not be extravagant or painfully expensive. It is always the thought that counts.
A little something to create warmth and sweet memories can go a long way. Pay attention to your partner to hear what they are hankering after and to get that unexpected gift for them at the perfect time.
Keep the romance alive.
If you want your marriage to last, then you have to keep making an effort to be romantic.
While things will change after you’ve been with your spouse for a long time or when you have children together, you should still make an effort to make each other feel special, to have date nights, and to keep courting each other long after you’ve said your vows.
Maintain realistic expectations.
If you want to live a happy married life, then you have to understand that not every day will be a walk in the park.
This doesn’t mean that you should expect marriage to be drab, dark, and disappointing, but it does mean that you should be prepared for the fact that there will be some struggles, some days of unhappiness, and some days when you just can’t even be in the same room as your spouse.
Learn to grow together.
As the years go on, it’s likely that the person you’re married to won’t be exactly the same as the person you said “I do” to all those years ago.