A negative attitude carries with it a lack of awareness. You’re not necessarily aware of a negative attitude permeating your outlook on life, and because of this lack of awareness, your attitude affects your interactions with other people and your interactions with yourself.
What if you were to become aware? What if, suddenly, you were able to step outside of the thought pattern that creates your attitude, choose a new pattern, and thus, a new attitude?
Read on for some quick and easy suggestions on how to change a negative attitude. Harness the Incredible Power of Redirection
Oftentimes, we think in a black-and-white, limiting way. It’s called binary thinking. Even thinking of thoughts as only negative or positive is a binary way of thinking.
You develop a negative attitude because you are convinced this binary way of thinking is an accurate reflection of reality.
When this way of thinking doesn’t achieve good results, you assign blame. Blame doesn’t help solve the problem of binary thinking it perpetuates it.
Take a step back from what you’re doing. Is there a different approach you can take? Who can you reach out to for help? What haven’t you tried? Redirect your actions and you’ll find yourself thinking more creatively and positively when it comes to solving the original problem.
Be a Change Agent, Not a Victim
You may not be able to control the rise of negative thoughts due to a tragedy that was beyond your control, but you can control how you respond to those thoughts.
Consider the following methods of coping with tragedies:
Talk with a counselor or someone who can give you an outside perspective.
Turn off the news, stop wallowing, and get active. Activities such as exercise, art, and games will help you process your feelings better by giving you a break from concentrating on repetitive negative thoughts.
Offer your support to others who have had a similar experience. If, for example, you’re recovering from addiction, find a peer support group.
Redirect painful emotions by finding an activity, such as volunteer work, writing, music, or sports, that is emotionally fulfilling and allows you to release pent-up emotions.
Sometimes tragedy is self-inflicted, meaning you have a bad experience that’s not necessarily a tragedy, but you treat it as such. You get down on yourself, turn to drugs and alcohol, and brood over your negative thoughts and feelings.
Be sure to recognize if this is happening, and become an agent of recovery instead of victimization.
Transform Negative Thoughts into Ultimate Questions
Asking questions opens your mind to new ideas. It helps you begin to build confidence. Positive self-talk can be tough, because your mind is like a broken record. You tell yourself you’re lovable, but for every time you say that, the thought that no one loves you pops up 10 times.
Embrace Your Emotions and Release Them Confidently
The moment you experience an emotion, there’s a reason for it; and therefore it’s valid.
Here’s the challenge: you must control what you do with that emotion.
You could hold the emotion in and let it fester, but that leads to things like depression, pent-up rage, and low self-esteem.
Create, Move, Believe, Contemplate Great Things
Once you know you are in control of how you react to thoughts and emotions, and in turn your actions create a pattern that reinforces itself, a huge world of greatness is there for you.
Greatness is there because at all times you can choose it. You can choose to listen to your deepest emotions, which are a thing of beauty because of their intense purity, and you can translate them into new things. New songs, poems, sayings, artworks, running routes, exercise routines, meals, friendships, jobs — it’s all there for you.