How to Build a Relationship

How to Build a Relationship
How to Build a Relationship

Most of us value connection with others, especially in our romantic relationships. In fact, we are wired for connection and it allows us to create bonds and intimacy with our partner.

How to Build a Relationship
So, how do we build that kind of relationship? That cozy, safe, long-term bond with someone who we know has our back for the long haul? A relationship that give us the freedom to be ourselves, that supports our growth and allows us to have flexibility with each other?

What Is Interdependence?
Interdependence suggests that partners recognize and value the importance of the emotional bond they share while maintaining a solid sense of self within the relationship dynamic. An interdependent person recognizes the value of vulnerability, being able to turn to their partner in meaningful ways to create emotional intimacy. They also value a sense of self that allows them and their partner to be themselves without any need to compromise who they are or their values system.
Being dependent on another person can sound scary or even unhealthy. Growing up, we are often taught an over-inflated value of independence, to be somewhat self-contained, with a high value placed on not needing others for emotional support.
Why Interdependence Is Healthy for a Relationship
Interdependence involves a balance of self and other within the relationship, recognizing that both partners are working to be present and meet each other's physical and emotional needs in appropriate and meaningful ways. 
Partners are not demanding of one another and they do not look to their partner for feelings of worthiness. This gives each partner space to maintain a sense of self, room to move toward each other in times of need and the freedom to make these decisions without fear of what will happen in the relationship.

How to Build an Interdependent Relationship
The key to building an interdependent relationship is to be mindful of who you are from the beginning.
 Many times people are looking for or entering, relationships simply to avoid feeling alone, without any personal reflection of who they are, what they value, and their goals for the relationship. Taking time for this kind of personal reflection allows you to enter a new relationship with an awareness of self that is critical for the establishment of an interdependent relationship.
This is How independent is

  1. .Knowing what you like and what matters to you
  2. Not being afraid to ask for what you want
  3. Spend time with friends and family
  4. Continue pursuing your personal goals
  5. Be mindful of your values
  6. Make time for hobbies and interests
  7. Don't be afraid to say "no"
Take time to reflect on who you are and what you want in your most important relationships. Being mindful of this in the dating process can help ensure that your relationship will be healthy and more solid for the long term.

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