Tips to be Strong After a Breakup

Tips to be Strong After a Breakup
After Breakup

The break-up is raw, and a jumble of emotions are still raging. Being strong will be difficult initially, and that's when you should allow yourself to feel the grief. But soon you'll start to feel time healing the wounds, and you'll be better than ever, and stronger than ever, too.

Some psychologists estimate that about 98% of us have experienced some form of unrequited love, whether it’s an unreturned crush or a nasty breakup. Knowing that you’re not alone probably won’t heal your broken heart, but it could make the pain easier to bear.

so here down are the steps ( Tips to be Strong After a Breakup )

Write about your feelings. Expressing how you feel, rather than bottling it all up or trying to ignore it, will help you accept that you’re in pain now, but it won’t always be this way.

 Writing about your feelings openly and honestly can help you understand them.The first step to coping with post-breakup loneliness is taking some time for introspection and reflection.

Don’t worry about grammar or spelling when you write. You’re writing just for you, to express your feelings and thoughts.

Don’t worry about grammar or spelling when you write. You’re writing just for you, to express your feelings and thoughts.

List your positive attributes. Breakups can cause you to doubt your self-worth. It’s important to remind yourself of all the good things about you.

 Studies show that when you remind yourself that you’re worth loving, you handle rejection better.  Make a list of the cool, great, interesting things about yourself. When you’re feeling down, whip out that list and remind yourself that you’re a remarkable person.

Think about positive things others have told you about yourself. Do your friends tell you how supportive you are? Are you the life of the party? Are you the caring person who gives up your seat on the subway or bus? Remind yourself that others see your value, too.

Talk with your friends. Share your feelings with them. Ask them about their own breakup experiences. They can offer you support and advice and If your friends offer you feedback or advice, try to be open and listen to them. You don’t have to take their advice, but accept the spirit in which it’s offered. If you notice that over time they become reluctant to talk to you about the breakup, you may be dwelling on it too much. Remember to ask your friends about their own lives, too.

Here are the important ( Tips to be Strong After a Breakup ) things you have to do

  • Delete photos of your ex from social media accounts (or at least crop him or her out of the photos).
  • If you have things that seem too nice to throw out, consider donating them to a charity or thrift store. You’ll be able to let go of that t-shirt/coffee mug/teddy bear, and you’ll be making a positive difference in someone else’s life, too.
NOTE : Memories aren’t always triggered by things. Even sounds and scents can trigger a memory or emotion.

Play nice. It’s too easy to go out and slash your ex’s tires, key his or her car, or egg his or her house. You could spread rumors about him or her and start the gossip mill going, but don’t. This behavior will only keep you locked in the past instead of focusing on how you’re going to move past the breakup. It may even lose you some friends.

Avoid rash decisions. After a breakup, it’s common to want to get your hair cut or dyed or get a tattoo. This helps us feel like we're changing our identities and that we can be a whole new person, a person that didn’t have this relationship. Remember that your brain chemistry is altered during a breakup, and your judgment is more than likely impaired right now.

Keep yourself busy. Distraction is only a temporary cure, but it can really help take your mind off the pain from your breakup.

This is how  you can keep busy 
  • Read that book series you’ve been meaning to get around to but never have. Join a book club so you can talk about it with others!
  • Take a class, learn a new skill, pick up a new hobby. Learning new skills will remind you that you’re capable of growth and achievement.
  • Call up people you’ve been meaning to chat with for months and haven’t. Remind yourself that you’re surrounded by people who love and support you.
Exercise. Exercise is a good way to vent your frustration and pain. It releases endorphins, those chemicals in your brain that make you happy. Regular moderate exercise can help you fight off anxiety and depression, too. 

Have fun. This may seem next to impossible, especially if you’re still raw after a breakup. However, having fun is great medicine for your brain. It reduces feelings of anger and increases your feelings of positivity.

Focus on being positive. Just because they broke up with you or doesn't want you back doesn't mean that you're worthless. There are plenty of other people who want you and would be willing to treat you even better than your ex. Find things that make you smile and laughSurround yourself with friends and people who care. You’ll feel better.

Tell yourself that you forgive the other person for his or her mistakes. And remember that it can take some time for you to fully feel forgiveness -- that’s okay.

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